Thievery

You don't have to scroll down to the bottom of the post to know why I have decided to call this what it is called :)

I've been pondering over this thought for a long time. In our entire span of life, we all have this shortcoming and resort to thievery of this form.

Thievery of Relationships.

Now I am not hinting at only infidelity in relationships.

An insight on what we knowingly or unknowingly steal, in the form of time and moments from individuals who rightfully own it.

Having said that, how many relationships can you say, without any doubt, that you “own” it?

Can we say we own our closest of relationships? Do we own friends? Do we own our partners?

There is a thin line between You and I.

Certain rules are inculcated as children by adults who perceived it by looking at their parents, society and experiences from life.

We are born to people who in turn become parents and we get our lifestyle and a major part of principles from them. We are classified into certain strata of society and carry forward a lot of that through blood relations.

I think the only relationships that we own are our parents, who love us unconditionally.

The lesser you own things the easier it is to survive .Our dependency that way is a bane.

After your parents who we are made to believe that we own, all other relationships are earned.

We earn friendships, partners, mentors, strangers.

 There is thin line between any relationship and it can always go sour unless treated in hierarchy.

With the world being more connected and open it has become difficult to even define friendships. I confess, I find it difficult to categorise my friends, acquaintances and strangers.

The moment I enter a comfort zone with someone that person becomes very special and is a friend. Similarly if I lose the trust with the same person he/she can be an acquaintance and also a stranger. What is that bias here?

To be around like minded people sets a perfect backdrop to a healthy life.

For our close relations we do everything possible and expect the same. The foundation is respect and trust wrapped in lot of love. It is important not to hurt and to stay committed. You can never get separated even by choice.

With your best of friends they are not going to be the decision makers but they stand by the decision and are always willing to listen and support. They are always around to be of help.

The category of “friends” is the one we hang out and party with. We share a lot of good times with them and always have great memories together. They are picture perfect.

Acquaintances are sometimes ...hmm..no..most of the times the ones who are of utmost help.

They belong to a different circle and are always informed of things that we don’t know and keeps feeding us with information. We only meet at social do’s weddings parties and with our friends.

Lastly, Strangers are people we are yet to meet and sometimes who we chose not to meet.

These are all relationships and the hierarchy and how is it anyway related to thievery?

When these circles intersect!

When the thin line vanishes

Have you ever thought if you are stealing the time and moments of people who deserve it better than u for your comfort and benefit?

Are you a daughter who steals relationship from your mother and of the time that she needs to be a wife?

Are you a friend who does not care that your friend has a partner who deserves her more than you?

Are you more of a mother than a wife?

Are you more of husband and less of a son?

Are you a boss who steals the thunder from your colleague?

Do you understand the hierarchy at all.

I know of two best friends who travelled together been there in thick and thin, who shared similar interests ,partied hard, and had a wide circle of common friends. He was getting married to his soul mate of many years .

Now unable to weigh both the relationships on the same scale the protocol of hierarchy had to be maintained.

The friend now stole no moments from the couple.

And i think it is the way of nature!

I know of suffering wives with children whose husbands are in relationships which don’t fall in any of these categories.

I know of disoriented husbands because their wives are engrossed in rearing their children.

When do we know that we have to stay or leave?

All relationships are sealed with love and it is wonderful .Used well it gives us intense happiness but can be the biggest trauma if not preserved well.

All relationships go through ups and downs as a part of harmonising and growing up. But, is your relationship failing because of one of the circles intersecting?

If yes, it could destroy everything to a level that it cannot be mended.

Leave! the moment you are not respected by others around. That is the first sign that you are not respecting yourself. Never be in a relationship in which you are constantly taking an effort to improve and it shows no result .

Clearly refresh all your relationships .In a matter of years you will realise that your whole circle of friends have changed.

If you feel you have to reach out to lost relationships go ahead.

Listen to your heart and see yourself in the bigger picture. Are you the intersecting point or are you well placed in the circle?

Chew over these thoughts and transform all your relationships.

Be in healthy round circles and never let those sharp curves to cut through you.