“Love has nothing to do with what you are expecting to get — only with what you are expecting to give — which is everything”
We are all in Love, it is just that the definition of the same changes according to our convenience.
To give unconditionally towards "US"
I’m not sure if I really meant what I just said or is it just a cliché sentence to get a lot of page views on my blog.
I guess in today's world we are all self sufficient and our dependency come only with benefit.
Benefit not only means money, caste, job or sexual desires but it is also Good time spend without interfering into each other’s personal breathing space.
Our expectations out of each other have become measurable in terms of what kind of food we eat, car we drive, language we speak.
I guess when the world is more connected and freedom to express ones thought always acts as a barrier to "being unconditional".
If I ever had the fear of being noticed for my thoughts I would have been on the safer side by not posting this article.
We get to choose all fragments of the person you want to be with from age , height, weight, city ,drinking and eating habits, hobbies, passions, interests and many more. You always get to choose without any fear of hurting and the other person easily becomes the "Unchosen one".
But even the unchosen one moves on as his/her life and does not change.
We are always occupied with our day to day life and busy keeping ourselves happy that it means effort, to accommodate your companion.
I believe that it is the duty of all human being to selfishly keep oneself happy .Go whatever extend to be in unconditional love with yourself .To the extent to which you can have an unchosen one if you are happy!
Even if you are in a safe warm perfect relationship with no external interference in it, it is a very precarious point to say "I love you".
This is a very tricky area. Has it become a sentence of the moment? You are in your partner's arms and just spontaneously say I love u?
Do we really need to acknowledge the fact that we love each other?
It is as simple as this!
We need to share the amount of happiness we have in our lives with each other .This also calls for a lot of security to be in a relationship.
When you say I Love you I guess it is important to understand the "I" more than love you. We all like to love and feel loved but how much will the "I" accommodate. Understanding and respect for oneself is more important when you say "I love you".
The root cause of misery is when you are highly dependent on the partner for happiness. This will lead to suffocation to the extent where the other person is forced to be in a relationship. The moment you start being insecure about your own self is when you pass on the pressure of being needy for love.
The baseline remains same ; Love and respect yourself. Women tend to think of their husbands as a superior authority and the man being not around will lead to self suffering and misery.
It is always good to be extra sure about the person you want to spend the entire lifetime with but it is also important to look at the relationship in a holistic way and think of "how you want your partner to be " as a question of desire than a compulsive necessity. In the process of being extremely critical about each other the bigger better positives about each other goes unnoticed!
We have to trust each other and have the confidence that being with each other goes without saying means in each other's ups and downs. Being in a relationship shouldn’t be stopping each other from cutting down on their ambitions and passions but being a catalyst of success in each other’s lives.
We are all in Love, it is just that the definition of the same changes according to our convenience.
To give unconditionally towards "US"
I’m not sure if I really meant what I just said or is it just a cliché sentence to get a lot of page views on my blog.
I guess in today's world we are all self sufficient and our dependency come only with benefit.
Benefit not only means money, caste, job or sexual desires but it is also Good time spend without interfering into each other’s personal breathing space.
Our expectations out of each other have become measurable in terms of what kind of food we eat, car we drive, language we speak.
I guess when the world is more connected and freedom to express ones thought always acts as a barrier to "being unconditional".
If I ever had the fear of being noticed for my thoughts I would have been on the safer side by not posting this article.
We get to choose all fragments of the person you want to be with from age , height, weight, city ,drinking and eating habits, hobbies, passions, interests and many more. You always get to choose without any fear of hurting and the other person easily becomes the "Unchosen one".
But even the unchosen one moves on as his/her life and does not change.
We are always occupied with our day to day life and busy keeping ourselves happy that it means effort, to accommodate your companion.
I believe that it is the duty of all human being to selfishly keep oneself happy .Go whatever extend to be in unconditional love with yourself .To the extent to which you can have an unchosen one if you are happy!
Even if you are in a safe warm perfect relationship with no external interference in it, it is a very precarious point to say "I love you".
This is a very tricky area. Has it become a sentence of the moment? You are in your partner's arms and just spontaneously say I love u?
Do we really need to acknowledge the fact that we love each other?
It is as simple as this!
We need to share the amount of happiness we have in our lives with each other .This also calls for a lot of security to be in a relationship.
When you say I Love you I guess it is important to understand the "I" more than love you. We all like to love and feel loved but how much will the "I" accommodate. Understanding and respect for oneself is more important when you say "I love you".
The root cause of misery is when you are highly dependent on the partner for happiness. This will lead to suffocation to the extent where the other person is forced to be in a relationship. The moment you start being insecure about your own self is when you pass on the pressure of being needy for love.
The baseline remains same ; Love and respect yourself. Women tend to think of their husbands as a superior authority and the man being not around will lead to self suffering and misery.
It is always good to be extra sure about the person you want to spend the entire lifetime with but it is also important to look at the relationship in a holistic way and think of "how you want your partner to be " as a question of desire than a compulsive necessity. In the process of being extremely critical about each other the bigger better positives about each other goes unnoticed!
We have to trust each other and have the confidence that being with each other goes without saying means in each other's ups and downs. Being in a relationship shouldn’t be stopping each other from cutting down on their ambitions and passions but being a catalyst of success in each other’s lives.
Lovely minu
ReplyDeleteit has to go timeless... if we are busy adding good moments in the present, either it will lead to the future or we will have only wonderful memories. Very good one man..
ReplyDeletethanks so much venki sir:)
ReplyDeletedear indu thanks for ur constant support and feedback and your thoughts are really something yo ponder and very very positive :)
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ReplyDeleteWow, where is this carnation bud blossomed from? A very well written, reflective article, thoughts....to ponder fully concur the root cause of rot is dependency..... Take it away and happiness flows out from within a well centred person. It is obvious that this varies from person to person based on many factors. Interestingly enough, benefits & expectations are basic Maslow’s need for the human to survive (as food, shelter and clothing). Most people need that to masala their life. For the handful of people on this other end of the continuum, this becomes secondary and the build from within becomes primary…. On You Minu, great job Namaste.
Thanks so much for ur time and feedback... It is always wonderful to know if thoughts are aligned with others
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