Everybody's Somebody

What do I know about people, or my surroundings?

They are just there or am I the one who is just around?

Do we have enough to learn from all that is around or are they just coming in your way.

To live, I strongly believe that we should observe, understand and respect the distinctive worth of people.

I have seen that over years attitude of people towards me have changed. Is this a conscious effort or have you ever analysed?

When I did; it mattered.

I started to treat them the same way they treated me and then it was easier to change.

Maybe there would have been a phase in my life where I did not want people around to watch or recognize me. But now it has turned to this quest for attention. When I got attention it was only by valuing each and everyone around. Whatever I needed was around. All I had to do was just take it.

Most of us are independent and by now has learnt the basic rule of life. Not to have emotional dependency on people or material.

Yes we all have goals and ambitions and we are most willing to step on the nearest shoulder to achieve our dreams. How much ever we say we do not need love, appreciation and more and more we emphasise that we love our solitude and self made empire of “void” we are just campaigning a defence mechanism.

We all need somebody!

We love to be appreciated how much ever we say we do not need credit and recognition for it.

We affirm how beautiful we are, how strong we are and how much we do not need love.

If you want to touch people and change lives, you look around and listen and try to understand, than question them or give advice.

Are you an expert to give advice?

I hate it when a dear one smokes; Am I a Doctor, researcher? Do I know the side effects of smoking or am I doing everything right? Am I in a place to advice the other?

I give relationship advice after several failed relationship and people still come to me for advice.

But entering the personal space is not the only way to touch lives. Nor do you achieve any greatness by doing so.

But, like the circle of life...When I touch the life of a human being and teach a person how to smile I pass on the torch to many other lives.

So look around and never walk out of a space without making a change.So look around and never walk out of a space without making a change.You could be everybody's somebody...

Ruth n Naomi not meant to be

Ruth and Naomi not meant to be...

I've always believed that age was no bar for friendship ,And gender too..

I chose to stay alone for almost a decade now , choosing freedom over wet towels,beer bottles and messy toilet seats .... When I decided to compromise it was honestly more of wanting to have a close loving family more than the man himself....

Sibling was a must ! someone who would come to me with their problems and I could be their love guru... 

From a generation who replaced things  instead of fixing an issue I was not too sure If I should invest my heart and soul to a relationship ...if I didn't then there would be no foundation.but yes as always I was opinionated and headstrong ,maybe too intimidating for a man ..

You are never expected to know everything ,not expected to be all that independent ,ambitious ..you should be someone who needs a man ...or you should always make the man feel like a man....

All that said and done a couple of sour conversations ,tears and staying away from each other's sight there is still that something you don't want to let go of...

I miss her the most.

We could talk .......about all the women stuff baking , cooking , jewellery ..... what we had in common was our love for the same man...

It was like giving away your favourite pet to another dear friend to take care of .

Blood relationships are not always necessary to sustain long term love and passion...I know a lot of siblings who cannot stand each other ...

Other than the logical practicality of life which a husband and son can understand there were things I could see and feel by sharing a warm hug...it was just a common interest sometimes or more.

I wanted to not lose her just because the relationship did not have the tag ...or of the fact that the relationship was not labelled ,like that of a mother - daughter or niece .

But in a family already created by two , the rules of the games are not "always" to be broken.

You have to sometimes oblige and is answerable to the existing family than that one relationship you are trying o save.

Have you ever felt that when things are too perfect  there is something wrong.Going to go wrong terribly !

We still continue to love and respect without affecting our respective  lives

All in the name of Love!

“Love has nothing to do with what you are expecting to get — only with what you are expecting to give — which is everything”

We are all in Love, it is just that the definition of the same changes according to our convenience.
To give unconditionally towards "US"
I’m not sure if I really meant what I just said or is it just a cliché sentence to get a lot of page views on my blog.
I guess in today's world we are all self sufficient and our dependency come only with benefit.

Benefit not only means money, caste, job or sexual desires but it is also Good time spend without interfering into each other’s personal breathing space.

Our expectations out of each other have become measurable in terms of what kind of food we eat, car we drive, language we speak.
I guess when the world is more connected and freedom to express ones thought always acts as a barrier to "being unconditional".
If I ever had the fear of being noticed for my thoughts I would have been on the safer side by not posting this article.

We get to choose all fragments of the person you want to be with from age , height, weight, city ,drinking and eating habits, hobbies, passions, interests and many more. You always get to choose without any fear of hurting and the other person easily becomes the "Unchosen one".
But even the unchosen one moves on as his/her life and does not change.

We are always occupied with our day to day life and busy keeping ourselves happy that it means effort, to accommodate your companion.
I believe that it is the duty of all human being to selfishly keep oneself happy .Go whatever extend to be in unconditional love with yourself .To the extent to which you can have an unchosen one if you are happy!

Even if you are in a safe warm perfect relationship with no external interference in it, it is a very precarious point to say "I love you".
This is a very tricky area. Has it become a sentence of the moment? You are in your partner's arms and just spontaneously say I love u?
Do we really need to acknowledge the fact that we love each other?
It is as simple as this!
We need to share the amount of happiness we have in our lives with each other .This also calls for a lot of security to be in a relationship.
When you say I Love you I guess it is important to understand the "I" more than love you. We all like to love and feel loved but how much will the "I" accommodate. Understanding and respect for oneself is more important when you say "I love you".

The root cause of misery is when you are highly dependent on the partner for happiness. This will lead to suffocation to the extent where the other person is forced to be in a relationship. The moment you start being insecure about your own self is when you pass on the pressure of being needy for love.
The baseline remains same ; Love and respect yourself. Women tend to think of their husbands as a superior authority and the man being not around will lead to self suffering and misery.

It is always good to be extra sure about the person you want to spend the entire lifetime with but it is also important to look at the relationship in a holistic way and think of "how you want your partner to be " as a question of desire than a compulsive necessity. In the process of being extremely critical about each other the bigger better positives about each other goes unnoticed!
We have to trust each other and have the confidence that being with each other goes without saying means in each other's ups and downs. Being in a relationship shouldn’t be stopping each other from cutting down on their ambitions and passions but being a catalyst of success in each other’s lives.

A promise to myself !!!Not to lose myself again...!

What best can I write about but being lost in thought, the dreamer and lover and the hug giver that I am!

I look at this new born baby and fancy at the fact that the universe educates so much in so little time.
She gets used to the breathing and gets into habits for listening to “rock a bye baby on the tree top.

After this social and spiritual education that the universe educates people educate us on regulations to fit in to the community of Human beings.

We breathe, we eat, and we rest in our shelters we hold hands of fellow human beings. We live.

As time flies by, we have to eventually find that "spark" to live life not within the four walls of your home.

Not in your family, not amongst your same caste and color, not in your same country but as a separate entity to clearly get highlighted. It is easy to be one amongst many. But to be that “One” amongst many is only after you find that spark in you.

How does this happen?
As time flies by or as you get experiences in life.
As a child I thought the bible was written in Greek and Latin. Today I find it the most interesting book compiles because of the experiences life has given you.

We keep walking inwards, to feed our soul with knowledge meeting individuals imitating the ones who have been successful, travel the world to even to see the change what do they eat.
To walk towards the inner light which gets bigger , brighter and clearer.

Where do we belong?

I always find it weird that when two individuals fall in love and say he was born for me. From this big wide world how could this made for me person speak the same language eat the same rice and not spaghetti .how come he is of the same community and follow the same religion.
Are we all walking the same path we have been sent to the earth for. Is it because we were walking the wrong path that we lost our loved ones?Hurt our families. Made wrong decisions in life!

Are we blessed enough to find the path that brings us peace.

There is no clear cut rule to suggest go to page number N and read chapter X to realize this is the path you need to take.
Then life would have been easy and boring.
It’s like watching a movie after knowing what the ending would be like. Where is the drive?

Sometimes you would have walked through that path not knowing where you were. It would have been lonely and cold.
You would have stood alone and the world on the opposite side.

Till one day.
I looked at the mirror at this Girl who has lost her charm. I look deep into her eyes she did have a spark and a sense of responsibility dawned upon me. Is this enlightenment?

It is never too late to find that light I found in my eyes when I still walk inwards the future roads to tread look clearer.
But it's my eyes I recognize. They reflect my mind. I had the answer right there which I searched tablets to get sleep, in books to find my inner self.

When I love, I love with all my heart.
Not afraid anymore to open my heart and love some more.
I always know when I'm right or wrong.
I put on my Bright Red nail polish.
I laugh much. Hug even more. Greet a stranger.

Forget dates. Each day is a new life. Which starts today ends in the night .
Open and close of the eye.
No wait of what life has in store for me ahead.
A girl who still can smile.
And love with all her might.
Who can give the tightest hugs
And sometimes cry all night.
To say what's in my heart.
I feel so rich and obsessed with Life and Way I live Life.

Difference between men and women

Difference between men and women

Nicknames

If Laura, Suzanne, Debra and Rose go out for lunch, they will call each other Laura, Suzanne, Debra and Rose.
If Mike, Charlie, Bob and John go out, they will affectionately refer to each other as Fat Boy, Godzilla, Peanut-Head and Scrappy.

Eating Out

When the bill arrives, Mike, Charlie, Bob and John will each throw in a $10,even though it's only for $32.50. None of them will have anything smaller, and none will actually admit they want change back.
When the girls get their bill, out come the pocket calculators.

Money

A man will pay $2 for a $1 item he wants.
A woman will pay $1 for a $2 item that she doesn't want.

Bathrooms

A man has six items in his bathroom: a toothbrush, shaving cream, razor, a bar of soap, and a towel from the Holiday Inn.
The average number of items in the typical woman's bathroom is 337. A man would not be able to identify most of these items.

Arguments

A woman has the last word in any argument.
Anything a man says after that is the beginning of a new argument.  

Future

A woman worries about the future until she gets a husband.
A man never worries about the future until he gets a wife.  

Success

A successful man is one who makes more money than his wife can spend.
A successful woman is one who can find such a man.

Marriage

A woman marries a man expecting he will change, but he doesn't.
A man marries a woman expecting that she won't change and she does.  

Dressing Up

A woman will dress up to go shopping, water the plants, empty the garbage, answer the phone, read a book, and get the mail.
A man will dress up for weddings and funerals.  

Natural

Men wake up as good-looking as they went to bed.
Women somehow deteriorate during the night.

What one sex can never understand from the other!!!!

There are many “things” in materialistic “things”….

Human beings need food shelter clothing and air to breathe…Men need beer….as if 60% of your body composition is beer…They will think twice before spending on a souvenir half the price but on a beer its always an YES….

Bathroom looks neat wow this is a beautiful cottage but I need to smoke it up with a cigarette ….stinky smoke that would want you to run away….

They need a second person to go behind with a checklist to turn on the exhaust fan and the flush….

Didn’t you evolve from apes….?or is it cows ….stop peeing on the toilet seats….

On the other front women its beyond understanding why wherever they go need to carry at least two change dresses and lot of makeup even if they are hitting the waters…

They have to carry all the cameras for a perfect click even if it is a long long walk up and down….

The boy puts his hand in the backpack he finds a BRA …why on earth is she carry a change of bra to match her next change clothes?

If she puts her hand in his bag she finds a condom…was he thinking he could get lucky….be realistic carry a mouthwash…

She wears skimpiest of clothes and feels cold…wears heels and cant walk…eat so much but does not put on weight he has two drinks down his tummy and gets a beer belly….

All are kids at heart fight for blankets and for a perfect couch…

She needs to know where every penny she spends and gets the men to sit and write and whereas he prefers to snore…

The more girlfriends the guys have had they have crossed the potty training period and for guys they would have got used to the makeup ,heels and jotting down expenses…Well did you expect women to be trained???????

Once upon a time there was a you and me….!!!!!!!!!

Once upon a time there was a you and me….!!!!!!!!!

A bright young college girl and a fantastic enthusiastic boy

Boy meets girl…… Girl meets boy….and Love is expected to follow…It follows

They bike around, eat, drink, dance, make news, and get attention, PDA on all social feeds…

There is mush cuteness parties, holding bottle by the neck and girl by the waist, gaming, movies and the most fanciest thing for the dude is to be a film maker and has no count of the woman he has dated, feels world survives on the gossip hey give….suddenly good times end and become transition time….

Boy wants Fun girl wants a serious Relationship.

Stuck up in the situation the boy gets nervous and comes up with brilliant Excuses…When you want something you find a way to do it when you don’t want something you find excuses…..OK don’t call those excuses they are reasons…Valid reasons to give up on love….

Now the girl is older to the boy by months and suddenly such things come to scene…

You are elder to me baby I need to settle in life!!!

My parents have not even thought of getting me married…the LOL factor is the parents don’t even know that their son drinks, smokes and have dated 12 girls and is not quite a baby but is capable of making one.

Your religion is different from mine eg you are a Hindu I am a Muslim or some caste that he is…..LOL factor is that I am an atheist .God bless you.

I need to make savings plan for us.20^th of every month bank balance is 0 or minimum balance is zero and a debt from papa of 20 K….

Don’t you want any good for me? I wanted to go abroad and do this particular course its been my biggest aspiration….last time you were in college it’s a lot of moey which went under the table to get you that certificate..

These have been the common valid reasons to give up on a greqat emotion called Love… the way it has been not respected and totally mocked is quite something which I have been noticing…

This is totally my view and any resemblance to any person dead or dying is totally coincidental….and resemblance to any one person is a crime it will resemble a lot of people around us…

LOVE LOVE…..Respect LOVE not many can

Matrimony chronicles

Top twenty questions........(pssst these questions decide u want to spend three fourth of ur life with someone or not)

All questions are asked with smile on face cold hands and on a serious note n jokes apart tone.in

 TB (thought bubble are my thoughts)

1)Name ?(TB as if u dont know)...ya rite MARIE is spelt like biscuit marie ...if u say this it is going to be ur first PJ.........

2)Age-(as if u dont know) and dude does it matter i dont think u r old!!!!

3)Place....which part of whichever "place"...oh i know someone there.....Bad one!!!!\

4)school college ...office...wow thats impressive baaah(TB i didnt know i was )

5)are u a foodie...? veg or non veg.....this is my fav restaurant...(foodie or non foodie u r gonna eat what i cook)

6)im looking for traditional girl with modern outlook....(TB:aint that a oxymoron????)

7)are u religious?rate on a scale of one to ten how religious are u?GOd also didnt ask this question

8)are u a social person? i have lot of friends and he will have 100 close friends on fb.....u r talking to someone with 1000 on fb and still thinking am i social?

9)how fashionable are u? so u r a brand baby!!ya rite i wear derby n basics....Am i hearing it right?(did ya just say DERBY are these brands?)

10)do u drive? when was this part of the ten questions?TB i drive ppl mad!!!

11)do u read ?what do u read....the last one i read was TINKLE it seems!!bahhh

12)Do u work on weekends oh no thats going to be so difficult....TB:- Difficult for what???? ok then u start taking weekday off

13)so how long have u been working ...still spend parents money eh???TB:- heck ask me whats my package!

14)Travel--im a nature person i like kumarakom and munnar....Okie got it low budget holidays rt?

15)Sports -fav sport...okie i dont watch cricket nor will i let u watch infact my fav sport is wrestling

16)this is the classic one....Do u like kids...i love kids.....Okie im not a baby making machine!!!

17)Im a light/social drinker....means u drink like a fish....non drinker/non drinker means i drink but im scared to accept...

18)what are u passionate about? cars,videogames,bungee jumping.......TB sorry i was think moon is not a piece of rock and drinks coffe with cream and runs out of the house when it starts raining.

19)coffee/Tea? .....stop forcing urself drinking that black coffee i know it is bitter!!!and it doesnt impress me...

20)im a family oriented person .....my moms the best and she wants this beautiful daughter with her....!! no comments!!!!

Now scoring 20 out of 20 is what matters or scoring 0 out of 20 and still going by the thought when u toss a coin what ur mind wants when the coin is up in the air........

all smiles ...i sit back and continue answering these 20 questions......sigh!!!!